Most times, it just gets down to common sense.

farmer with gun-Most times, it just gets down to common sense.

Words of wisdom from an old farmer.

Picture and text courtesy of Malcolm Roy Olson

Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong.

Keep skunks and bankers at a distance.

Life is simpler when you plow around the stump.

A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor.

Words that soak into your ears are whispered… not yelled.

Meanness don’t jes’ happen overnight.

Forgive your enemies; it messes up their heads.

Do not corner something that you know is meaner than you.

It don’t take a very big person to carry a grudge.

You cannot unsay a cruel word.

Every path has a few puddles.

When you wallow with pigs, expect to get dirty.

The best sermons are lived, not preached.

Most of the stuff people worry about ain’t never gonna happen anyway.

Don’t judge folks by their relatives.

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Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

 

 

Live a good, honorable life… Then when you get older & think back, you’ll enjoy it a second time.

Don ‘t interfere with somethin’ that ain’t bothering you none.

Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a Rain dance.

If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin’.

Sometimes you get, and sometimes you get got.

The biggest troublemaker you’ll probably ever have to deal with, watches you from the mirror every mornin’.

Always drink upstream from the herd.

Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.

Lettin’ the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin’ it back in.

If you get to thinkin’ you’re a person of some influence, try orderin’ somebody else’s dog around..

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God.

Don’t pick a fight with an old man. If he is too old to fight, he’ll just kill you.

Most times, it just gets down to common sense.

ignorance_Learning by pissing on fence_rogers

 

“Wanting to understand something that is not possible to be rationally understood, can be incessantly frustrating.”

“Wanting to understand something that is not possible to be rationally understood, can be incessantly frustrating” she said to me with a stressed but accepting look on her face. She went on to say, as if accepting her inevitable fate…

 To be free of that persistent feeling when i die is, in some kinda way, something to look forward to. Until then, the world could certainly use more confused minds like yours, wheels spinning, still trying to understand. Far better more of those than those who are happy to con themselves into thinking they have it all figured out.”

So how do people react or respond when they don’t understand something of more than less importance. Some carry on regardless of the shock they might earn….

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The epiphany i had about never being able to figure out ‘life’ and ‘living’, or ever to control life, only came after having several near death experiences.

The answer was that there was no answer, and that i didn’t need one.

The irony of living was that i controlled only myself, and not even that at times. So i began to pictured living life as being somewhere between a twig in a swift flowing stream and an albatross flying with and against the wind. Albatross _NOAAGreyHeaded

So whenever something confused me, i eventually learned that there was information i didn’t yet have, or had not yet seen. So all i had to do was try and understand what i could, and put aside what i couldn’t understand; in newspapers it used be called “spiking” an article for use at some future time; or not.

Buddha said that when the student is ready the teacher will appear. In my life i have had many such epiphanies from human and situational teachers.

So for the 55+ years since that first significant teacher showed up unexpectedly, acceptance and appreciation of what is has worked for me, and funnily enough, it still does, beautifully.

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One senior’s ode to coronavirus isolation …. an uplifting poem to lighten the load!

Life is what we make of it, even when in coronavirus isolation.

 Sent to me by a loving friend.

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the covid is raging
my life is a mess
i live in pajamas
and don’t have to dress

i’m in isolation
just staying at home and
would give my last dollar to be free to roam

 

i’m seriously at risk
(or that’s what they say)
telling me to stay in
and not go out each day

in my head i’m so young
though my licence reveals
i’m a 70-plus senior
(but that’s not how it feels!)

when i run out of food
and deliveries are late
i have to buy groceries
between 7 and 8

coronavirus - seniors hours shopping

so early in the morning
i head out to restock
and discover a line up
that winds ’round the block

 

social distancing seniors
all 6 feet apart
make me wonder just when
i became an old fart

my meals are repetitive
(a lot like my gas!)
and i’m tired of discussing
why trump is an ass

my latest new outfit
is gloves and a mask
and i’m starting to wonder
if i’m up to this task

i wash all my groceries
all fruit, meat and veg…….
will this additional precaution
tip me over the edge?

my beautiful blonde hair
has wide roots of grey
no hairdressers around
to help wash them away

i’ve been talking to myself
now i’m answering back
is it monday or friday
i’ve really lost track

i’ve stopped doing housework
it’s weeks since i’ve dusted
and i know without visitors
i’ll never get busted

i facetime my friends
or we group chat on zoom
and try to pretend
we’re all in the same room

thank god liquor stores
are considered ‘essential’
without daily drinks
this would drive us all mental

every once in a while
it is good to reflect
on what this all means
and what we can expect

i’s a time to be grateful*
for all that we’ve got
like a warm house and food
that others have not

friends_crazy0415the bottom line here
by the time this all ends
is that we’ll get through it
with our family and friends

so even if your partner
is a bit of a grump
you can really be grateful
you’re not married to trump!

Stay safe. Play safe. Be well!

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Some call it luck, some call it fate, coincidence, or synchronicity. Our realities are always affected by what we see and learn.

Coincidence: A concurrence of events or circumstances without apparent causal connection. eg; they met by coincidence

synchronicity

Synchronicity: The simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.“such synchronicity is quite staggering”

Luck is the residue of design” (Branch Rickey) Since we make our beds, then have to sleep in them, comfortable or not, reality will be what we make of it and take from it. 

50 years ago, almost dying changed me forever. One minute i was playing at what i loved, the next i woke up in a hospital bed not knowing where i was while machines and feeder tubes kept me alive. 6 weeks had disappeared except in the deep recesses of my psyche.

The experience changed me in ways which i only noticed and acknowledged as years flowed by.

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Most of my life, others have observed how fortunate i have been. I agree. But i haven’t won any lotteries and the only prize i’ve ever won was 2 tickets to a Diana Ross & Supremes  concert in Montreal back in the 60s.

Nevertheless, the ah-ha moment landed on me when i realized that the angel on my shoulder needed my help to make her magic.

So synchronicity, with my help, has enabled me to live a wonderful and exciting life by inviting people and situations to my path so i could learn. 

Now in my 70s, and as recently as this year in the middle of a pandemic, she’s done it again!

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During these difficult times when so many are suffering physically, emotionally, and psychologically, we have options. We can’t stop change, but most of us can control how we respond to challenging changes. And we never have to do it alone.

As i’ve experienced and seen, the challenges presented me and many others with opportunities.

We could embrace changes which make our lives and our societies more satisfying and pleasurable, or not.

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It’s all up to us; and that’s no coincidence.

 

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We are all connected by the Butterfly Effect, including all those we love and have loved. So what do we do with those no longer with us?

The departed want us “To Carry them with us – that is our task.”

How do i know? I know because we carry them with us whether we enjoy the ride or not. This is my reality and my gift; a gift available to all of us.

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“What task do the departed want us to do?”

“To carry them with us – that is our task. We carry them all inside us, all our dead and shattered loves. Only they make us whole.” 

“If we begin to forget or cast aside those we’ve lost, then… then we are no longer present either.”

All the loved, all the dead, all the people we’ve known are the rivers which feed our sea of souls.  If we refuse to remember them, that sea will dry up too.” 

Once upon a time i met a new friend, and love, who was visiting our small town, but only temporarily. We had an intense and passionate relationship. One morning she looked as if someone close to her had died overnight as she awakened me with; “I have to leave later today;  i know i may never see you again, and i feel like crying. You make me so happy to be with you but i know our respective realities make any longer term thing impossible.”

We spent the next few hours together but there was a cloud hanging over us under the clear and beautiful Spring sky. “You will always be with me” i said to her as she finished packing her car.

“Vanessa, you will be in my heart and in my mind through this life, and maybe even through my next iteration. (Yes, that’s the way i talk. LOL) Every time i remember you and our times together, you will bring joy to my heart, a smile to my face, and a tilt to my kilt. Once i’ve  grieved your absence, after crying whatever tears need to be expressed, i will forever after carry you with me.”

Plagiarizing Nina George’s character’s words, “I can only talk about the things i’ve experienced. I’d have to get into the pan with the potatoes in order to give my opinion on the french fries.”

I don’t know if Vanessa believed me because we never connected again. Nevertheless, within me i carry her, all those i love, and everyone i have loved, and they make me whole. That is my experience.

little paris book shop

Sometimes i find a book which inspires a cornucopia of relevant and inciteful “ah-ha” moments; The little Paris Bookshop by Nina George offered so many lessons; her words i’ve quoted (italicized) are just a few of those gifts.

 

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If you believe that you know everything you need to know….

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Those who believe they know everything they need to know, will find out the hard way that they know almost nothing beyond their own views.

- Joseph Ravick

 

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“I thought about you today,” explains why friends forward jokes.

Never do we need friends and family more than in times of crisis and stress, like now for many.  So are you tired of all the jokes and YouTube vids you receive daily? I get lots, including this one from a dear friend which explains why people share their joys with us.

It’s beautiful!

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A man was walking along a road with his best friend.

The man was enjoying the scenery when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead.

After a while,they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the road. It looked like fine marble.

At the top of a long hill, it was broken by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight.

When he was standing before it, he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother-of-pearl and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold.

He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at a desk to one side.

When he was close enough, he called out, “Excuse me, where are we?”

“This is Heaven, sir,” the man answered.

”Wow! Would you happen to have some water?” the man asked.

”Of course, sir. Come right in, and I’ll have some ice water
brought right up.” The man gestured, and the gate began to
open. “Can my friend,” gesturing toward his dog, “come in,
too?” the traveller asked.

no pets cartoon

”I’m sorry, sir, but we don’t accept pets.”

The man thought a moment and then turned back toward the road and continued the way he had been going with his
dog.

After another long walk, and at the top of another long hill, he came to a dirt road leading through a farm gate that looked as if it had never been closed.

There was no fence.

As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book.

”Excuse me!” he called to the man. “Do you have any water?”

”Yeah, sure, there’s a pump over there, come on in.” 

”How about my friend here?” the traveller gestured to the dog

”There should be a bowl by the pump,” said the man.

They went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old-fashioned hand pump with a bowl beside it.

dog drinkingThe traveller filled the water bowl and took a long drink himself, then he gave some to the dog.   

When they were full, he and the dog walked back  toward the man who was standing by the tree.

”What do you call this place?” the traveller asked.

“This is Heaven,” he answered.

”Well, that’s confusing,” the traveller said.

”The man down the road said that was Heaven, too.”

”Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates? Nope. That’s Hell.”

”Doesn’t it make you mad for them to use your name like that?”

”No, we’re just happy that they screen out the folks who would leave their best friends behind.”

Dianna, a friend for over 40 years was thinking about me the day she sent me this lovely story  from another city. I appreciate her daily jokes and forwards even though it may take me a few days to even open them. Just seeing her name in my inbox feels good.

So-o-o-o…..

if you wonder why friends keep forwarding stuff to us without writing a word.

Maybe this will explain it.

      • When you are very busy, but still want to keep in touch, guess what you do? You forward emails!

      • When you have nothing to say, but still want to keep contact, you forward jokes!

      • When you have something to say, but don’t know what, and don’t know how . . . . You forward stuff!

A ‘forward’ lets you know that . . .
. . . You are still remembered,
. . . You are still important,
. . . You are still loved,
. . . You are still cared for.

So,  next time if you get a ‘forward’, don’t think that you’ve been sent just another forwarded joke, …

….. but that you’ve been thought of today and your friend on the other end of your computer wanted to send you a smile.

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You are welcome at my water bowl anytime !!

So here’s to keeping in touch . . . Even if it means only forwarding on an email!

By the way, did you ever wonder why dogs are so often much happier than humans?

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Are the ‘entitled’ suffering worse than the rest of us?

THE ENTITLED ‘want it all, and they want it now.

coronavirus lockdown protestThe pandemic has brought out the best in some people, like our front lines heroes. We also hear and see how some stressed people are acting out their frustrations and anger the longer they are denied their pleasures by the coronavirus pandemic.

These are THE ENTITLED who can’t have their restaurants, night clubs, stores, and parks, being denied whatever enjoyments they crave. And the longer they’re denied the pleasures they feel entitled to receive,  the angrier they seem to become.  Queen had a hit song which might describe how some of them feel.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7JB8xizXnT0 

Queen I Want It AllI Want It All (edited lyrics)

Adventure seeker on an empty street
Just an alley creeper, light on his feet
A young fighter screaming, with no time for doubt…
With the pain and anger can’t see a way out…  It ain’t much I’m asking, I heard him say… Gotta find me a future move out of my way

I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now
I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now

Listen all you people, come gather round
I gotta get me a game plan, gotta shake you to the ground
But just give me, huh, what I know is mine
People do you hear me, just gimme the sign
It ain’t much I’m asking, if you want the truth
Here’s to the future for the dreams of youth

I want it all and I want it now

I’m a man with a one track mind
So much to do in one lifetime (people do you hear me)
Not a man for compromise and where’s and why’s and living lies
So I’m living it all, yes I’m living it all
And I’m giving it all, and I’m giving it all

I want it all, I want it all, I want it all and I want it now

Source: LyricFind  Songwriters: Brian May / Freddie Mercury / John Deacon / Michie Nakatani / Roger Taylor

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Given that this pandemic is not going anywhere for a long while, THE ENTITLED might as well plan to suffer for the foreseeable future.

Unless they change their sense of entitlement, replacing it with an attitude of acceptance.

So if you’re suffering withdrawal pains and frustrations, physically, emotionally and/or psychologically because you can’t have what you want, you have a choice.

Stay miserable, continue suffering, or adjust to your reality and go with the flow.

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9 Types of Entitlement Tendencies and How to Overcome Them

If you are unhappy, and think that a sense of entitlement is dragging you down, take a look at this article to see if you can identify any of the following entitlement tendencies in yourself.

Then personalize and experiment with Dr. Alice Boyes’ suggestions.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/in-practice/201303/9-types-entitlement-tendencies-and-how-overcome-them

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When times are tough, having perspective is good; mindfully applying your perspective is even more effective.

A person’s challenges are often worse than anyone else’s; to her or him.

Changing our ‘woe is me’ view takes perspective and empathy for those others who have been where we are.

When times are tough, having perspective is good; mindfully applying your perspective is even more effective.

The following is by an unknown author, received from a friend 

We probably all think that it’s a mess out there now. Hard to discern between what’s a real threat and what is just simple panic and hysteria.

For a small amount of perspective at this moment, imagine you were born in 1900.  Many would think that that was a pretty simple time of life.

Then on your 14th birthday,World War I starts, and ends on your 18th birthday.  22 million people perish in that war, including many of your friends who volunteered to defend freedom in Europe.

Later in the year, a Spanish Flu epidemic hits the planet and runs until your 20th birthday. 50 million people die from it in those two years. Yes, 50 million.

On your 29th birthday, the Great Depression begins.Unemployment hits 25%; the World GDP drops 27%. That runs until you are 38. The country nearly collapses along with the world economy.  If you were lucky, you had a job that paid $300 a year, a dollar a day.

When you turn 39, World War II starts. You aren’t even over the hill yet, but don’t try to catch your breath.  If you lived in London, England or most of continental Europe, bombing of your neighbourhood, or invasion of your country by foreign soldiers along with their tank and artillery was a daily event.

 

Canada frees Holland

Thousands of Canadian young men joined the army to defend liberty with  their lives.  Between your 39th and 45th birthday, 75 million people perish in the   war.

 

At 50, the Korean War starts. 5 million perish.

At 55 the Vietnam War begins and doesn’t end for 20 years.4 million people perish in that conflict.

On your 62nd birthday there is the Cuban Missile Crisis, a tipping point in the Cold War.

JR Grad pic @16A personal experience which gave me perspective: I was 16 years old on Monday October 22, 1962, when the US established a naval blockade of Cuba. Tuesday morning, about 6 am, ourSte Agathe PQ doorbell rang and standing there was my Uncle flushed and obviously stressed. He immediately jumped in with “pack whatever you can and come with me. I have a bomb shelter ready in my Ste. Agathe house.  My Father said no thanks. He had survived the Holocaust, and preferred a fast death over a slow painful one.

Life on our planet, as we know it, could have ended.  But sensible leaders prevented that from happening.

In 2020, we have the COVID-19 pandemic. Thousands have died; it feels pretty dangerous; and it is.

Now think of everyone on the planet born in 1900.

How do you think they survived all of the above?

When you were a kid in 1965, you didn’t think your 65-year-old grandparents understood how hard school was, and how mean that kid in your class was.

Yet they survived through everything listed above.

Perspective is an amazing art.

It’s refined as time goes on.

Perspective can be enlightening and empowering.

So, let’s try and keep things in perspective.  Let’s be smart, we are all in this together.  Let’s help each other out, and we will get through all of this.

We can become stronger if we mindfully live our experiences.

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